So – how IS your marriage? I have a little list of fun questions…well, not so little at all…ahhh, let me rephrase that. I have a long list of questions (60 to be exact) to help get some fun conversations going between you and your spouse. I can’t think of a more perfect time than Valentine’s Day to take your husband by the hand – bat your little eyelashes and say, “Oh…ah…honey…I thought it might be fun to ask some fun marriage questions….just a little prelude for our evening?”
I promise you that when I ask my husband to answer these intimate questions he will groan saying, “Oh, Jack…nooooooo….please nooooo.” THAT WILL NOT STOP ME. Oh no it won’t. I’m on this thing like a dog on a bone. Don’t let it stop you either.
It’s important to connect on a deep level with your husband but sometimes it can be a liittttlle hard to get your man to go deep. It can even be a little awkward. Sometimes it has just been a little too long since you have had that heartfelt conversation. Be brave, my friend. Light a fire, play some music, pour a glass of bubbly. The goal is for the two of you to have some good conversation, learn a few new things about each other, and have some fun.
OK – now for the questions. I will ask the question and each of you should answer. DON’T skip the hard ones. It just might be the most important question that the two of you need to answer. Have fun!
#1 – What is something you love about your spouse – that you didn’t know about when you first got married?
#2 – If you were given $20,000 – exactly how would you spend the money?
#3 – If your daughter was being excluded from her two closest friends – how would you handle it?
#4 – If your son was being picked on at school – how would you handle it?
#5 – What causes you stress/concern/worry? Is there anything your spouse could do to help with that?
#6 -What challenge did you face as a child that had the greatest impact on your future?
#7 – Do you think you travel well together? Is there anything you would change?
#8 – What couple most inspires you and why?
#9 – Do you think you are too social? Should be more social? Or you’ve got it just right?
#10 – Who do you think gives in more and how do you feel about that?
#11- If you learned that you were going to die next week – would you have any regrets about the way you are living your life right now?
#12 – What advice would you give to a couple who is just getting married?
#13 – If you could relive one year of your life – which would it be and why?
#14 – Which of you is better at laughing at themselves?
#15 – What is a newer song that has become one of your favorites?
#16 – What gift that your spouse gave to you came as the biggest surprise?
#17 – If you had to pick up a new dog tomorrow that was going to be yours FOREVER – what kind would it be? Which of the two of you would be more happy about it?
#18 – If you were going to renew your vows – what vow would you make to your spouse today?
#19 – There are 5 love languages – words of affirmation, acts of service, gift giving, touch, and spending time together. What do you think your spouse’s love language is? What is your love language? How do you think the two of you might improve at speaking the same love language?
#20 – What is the thing that your spouse does that makes you feel the most loved?
#21 -If you could keep the same members of your family – but live another person’s life – would you? If so – who would you trade with and why?
#22 -Which of the two of you is better at remembering things?
#23 – Do you think you are having as much fun as you did the year prior to your marriage? If not – what can you do to change that up?
#24 – What is your biggest unacknowledged dream?
#25 – Describe your spouse and the details of your first real date. (You may each have a different recollection on this one…)
#26 – What did your spouse do that made you realize they were the one?
#27 – What is it that you would like to change about yourself?
#28 – What do you value more – spontaneity or careful planning?
#29 – How would you like to grow in your faith walk? What could you do to grow in faith as a couple?
#30 – If you found out you were pregnant – TODAY – how would each of you react?
#31 – If you could relive one moment from a time before you met your spouse – which would it be?
#32 – What are five words you would use to describe your spouse?
#33 – If/when you have kids – what will you take away from the way your parents raised you?
#34 – If you were to meet the younger YOU – would you be proud of who you are today?
#35 – In what way are you similar to your mom?
#36 – In what way are you similar to your dad?
#37 – If you had to move to another state – where would you go and why?
#38 – Would you say that the two of you are more alike – or different ? And how?
#39 – Do you think you spend enough time together alone as a couple?
#40 – If you were going on vacation with any six people – who would you choose and why?
#41 – Have you ever experienced a miracle?
#42 – Do you think the two of you could own a business together and work side by side every day?
#43 – How is your relationship unique?
#44 – What is – or do you think – will be the most difficult part of having a baby? What do you think the two of you can do to overcome that challenge?
#45 – What do you find emotionally appealing about your spouse?
#46 – How is your relationship different now than when you first got married?
#47 – When did you last shed a tear or get choked up?
#48 – When either of you is offended – which of the two of you would be more likely to speak up?
#49 – Imagine that you were to get a major job promotion with a huge increase in salary and it would require 50% travel for two years…what would each of your responses be?
#50 – What are the three most important things you have in common?
#51 – What are your biggest differences?
#52 – In what area do you think that you could improve your relationship?
#53 – Which scenario makes you more comfortable – big fish in small pond – or little fish in a big pond?
#54 – Is life anything like what you had pictured when you were growing up?
#55 – Which of the two of you would be more likely to break a rule? Why do you think you are a rule breaker or rule follower?
#56 – Which of the two of you is more adaptable to change?
#57 – Describe that moment when you find your spouse to be completely irresistible?
#58 – At this moment in your life – would you describe yourself as discouraged – frustrated – satisfied – overwhelmed – content – or very happy? If you did not choose “very happy”, how do you think you could change that?
#59 – Where would you like to go for your next vacation – just the two of you?
#60 – What are the three greatest prayers of your heart?
I hope you had some fun reconnecting.